Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Proper table settings
What goes where on the table and which glasses go with what drinks
Real easy to remember, the etiquette experts tell us. The general rule with utensils is to start from the outside of your place setting, and work your way toward the service plate (the main meal plate): soup spoon first, then fish knife and fork, then service knife and fork. Proper arranging dining room sets with chairs at the end... of the table for the host and hostess is another aspect.
When to start eating:
Despite what mother told you, culinary experts say you do not always have to wait for everyone to begin – start eating hot food when it is served. For cold foods or buffets, wait for the host to announce dinner and wait until the head guest starts dishing.
See: Proper table settings
Foods you can get by hand:
1. Bread: break slices of bread, rolls and muffins in half or into small pieces by hand before buttering.
2. Bacon: if there’s fat on it, eat it with a knife and fork. If it is crisp, crumble it with a fork and eat with your fingers.
3. Finger meals: follow the cue of your host. If finger meals are offered on a platter, place them on your plate before putting them into your mouth.
4. Foods meant to be eaten by hand: corn on the cob, spareribs, lobster, clams and oysters on the half shell, chicken wings and bones (in informal situations), sandwiches, certain fruits, olives, celery, dry cakes and cookies.
Removing inedible items from your mouth:
1. Olive pits: drop delicately into your palm before putting them onto your plate.
2. Chicken bone: use your fork to return it to the plate.
3. Fish bones: remove with your fingers.
4. Bigger pieces: bigger bones or food you don’t appreciate you should surreptitiously spit into your serviette (napkin), so that you can keep it out of sight.
Which glasses go with what drinks
Wine connoisseurs agree that each type of wine needs a particular type of glass to bring out the distinctive bouquet. Using a narrow glass for a rich Burgundy, for example, won’t allow enough room to swirl it around in, and it’s the swirl that brings out its bouquet. The glass also needs to taper properly toward the top so that it captures the bouquet yet allows for sipping. In general, the stem of a glass should be long enough to keep hands from touching the bowl, which can affect the wine’s temperature, and therefor its bouquet.
The proper wine glasses - courtesy of wineview
Water | Brandy | White wine | Pinor Noir/Burgundy | Sparkling wine | Red wine
a. Water: full body glass with short stem. Hold the glass by the stem to preserve its chill.
b. Brandy: brandy snifter. Roll the snifter between both hands and then cup it in one hand – warming the glass brings out the bouquet in brandy.
c. White wine: slightly smaller glass with wider bowl to capture the bouquet. Hold the glass by the stem to preserve its chill.
d. Burgundy Reds and Pinot Noirs: a wide bowl to bring out their complexity. The glass is slightly taller than the white wine glass.
e. Champagne: a narrow fluted glass, which reduces the wine’s surface area and keep the bubbles from dissipating.
f. Red wine: the bigger of the wine glasses. Hold the glass at the bottom of the bowl where it meets the stem.
Bon appetit!
Now that you have the correct table setting and the proper wine glasses, see which wines go best with what food, and then make sure you have the right person to share it with!
Did you know?
Wine is sold in tinted bottles because wine spoils when exposed to light. And the indentation at the bottom of the bottle strengthens the structure of the bottle but also is there to trap the sediments
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Whittling Down Your Guest List on receptions.com
No matter what you think, the wedding guest list is the one sore spot for most couples-to-be. With parents and possibly stepparents chiming in with wishes to invite your third step cousin twice removed, the groom's wish to invite his entire beer guzzling fraternity posse, and the bride's dream to have her entire running list of girlfriends present, the wedding list becomes a point of contention for every couple. But just how many people do you need to invite?
For starters, let's consider the budget...
The more people, the more expensive the wedding. On average, guests can cost anywhere from $50-100 per head for a modest-average wedding (yes, that's right!). Then you have to consider your ceremony and reception venues, the rental costs and fees associated with both (some places have flux rates pending guest count, and its very common for larger facilities to require a certain number of guests on busiest days, like Sat. nights).
If you and your fiancé are planning on splurging on your wedding and want all of your friends and family present, then you'll want a big venue and an even bigger budget. If however, you're like most people with some budget restrictions and modest venues, you'll have to whittle down the numbers to save money and space for all guests that make the cut. But where to start?
Have 2 Lists
Have both sets of parents, the bride and the groom make two sets of guest lists: an A list and a B list. Your A list should include everyone that you definitely want present; your B list will have everyone from the A list and a few others you think it would be nice to invite. Before you see any of the lists (besides your own of course), identify a total headcount you want to stay within reach of (this will serve as the wagering piece for all future guest list negotiations).
Once all 4 lists are in hand, figure out how many A list people are present on all 4 lists: These people obviously made the cut. What number are you at now? How many more people can be invited? How many heads over are you if everyone's A list is honored? If you're over, then ditch B lists (for the time being) and have everyone redo their A list with a new headcount for the remaining available spaces.
Its likely that all of your A lists will be to big, and most of your B lists wont make it if you're working with a smaller budget, so once you've identified the must-haves, figure out who is financing the wedding. Are the bride's parents paying, the groom's, both, or is the couple taking the wedding on themselves? If the latter, then it becomes a matter of negotiating and compromising among bride and groom; realistically, the parents don't really have much room to "demand" certain guests be invited. If, however, either set of parents are contributing to the wedding, then you'll want to be respectful to their guest list wishes, within reason.
Respected wedding source, The Knot recommends inviting 10% more guests than your total headcount; this allows some squeeze room for remaining questionable A and B listers because it's next to impossible that everyone will accept your invitation.
Round Two
If you send your invitations out early enough and get responses early too, those newly empty spaces can be filled with B guests. Be sure and send them a formal invitation though, and should they inquire why they received their invitation after Uncle Bob, you can either try and gracefully explain the situation to the disgruntled guest, or you can flat out lie and tell them you sent the invitations in two shipments. Hey it's your day; don't let B listers stress you out!
If you're down to the wire, consider phoning last minute invites with a sincere invitation and a graceful explanation. These people are likely acquaintances rather than close friends and they'll usually understand your time and budget constraints. Should they accept your invitation, think of them as having just "moved up" on your list as weddings are equally expensive and time consuming for guests and this guest just willingly obliged your last minute invitation!
Parent's Guests
To be fair, each set of parents should get the same number of invites, though if one set of parents is footing the bill, they may be more pushy about extra invites; just be flexible, again, within reason. You don't want to tell your parents they only get 10 guests and then have to explain to them why your fiancé's parents invited 2/3 the total guest count.
Coworkers
When it comes to inviting coworkers be careful. If you're close with your boss, you could invite them, but it's not necessary. You don't want to invite more than one or two people from work unless you want to risk having water cooler gossip about "making the list" stressing you out for weeks up until the wedding. Our recommendation: Unless you've been in your career long enough to have established strong professional or social relationships with a certain group of people, avoid work politics and stress by limiting the total number of invited coworkers.
(No) Kid Zone
Decide if you want to invite kids and when making out invitations to couples with children, be sure and specify through invitation etiquette that it is a "no children" wedding. If you want kids at the reception, then great. If you don't, you'll have to set guidelines, respectfully address your invitations accordingly, and just to be safe, check in with a phone call to make sure these guests know this is a "no kids" zone. Hey, it's your big day and its just one night. Of course, you understand if they can't come.
As a general rule of thumb, morning and lunchtime weddings are usually more kid friendly, while sit-down dinners and nighttime receptions tend to be more "adult only" occasions. But there are exceptions to every rule.
Tit for Tat
If you're still over on your headcount, be fair and do a "tit for tat" cutting session where you cut guests, one for one, from each of your lists. Of course, if you start cutting fantasy football friends with first cousins, you may need to reevaluate if "evens stevens" numbers is the best way to divide the list. Chances are, if one member has a larger family, they'll have a larger number of guests; not because they have more friends, but more family. So, because they expect to invite all those family members, they should be more gracious about you inviting your friends, even B list friends, since their A list family largely outnumbers yours. See, compromise is the stuff all great marriages are made of; consider this Test One.
If you're still over on the headcount, here are a couple other guidelines/questions to consider:
Have you talked to this person at least once in the last 6 months?
Have you hung out with this person at least once in the last year?
Has this person neglected to return your last 2 or more phone calls?
Will you still be friends with this person in 5 years?
Will this family member not speak to you any longer if you don't invite them? Do you have much of a relationship with them now (anyhow)?
Does this person have a lot of children and will they expect to bring these children tot he wedding?
Have you broken plans intentionally with this person more than once?
Will the wedding cost this guest a lot of money to attend and will you be able to spend enough time with them to make it worth their while? (Consider flying out to visit them after the wedding)
For starters, let's consider the budget...
The more people, the more expensive the wedding. On average, guests can cost anywhere from $50-100 per head for a modest-average wedding (yes, that's right!). Then you have to consider your ceremony and reception venues, the rental costs and fees associated with both (some places have flux rates pending guest count, and its very common for larger facilities to require a certain number of guests on busiest days, like Sat. nights).
If you and your fiancé are planning on splurging on your wedding and want all of your friends and family present, then you'll want a big venue and an even bigger budget. If however, you're like most people with some budget restrictions and modest venues, you'll have to whittle down the numbers to save money and space for all guests that make the cut. But where to start?
Have 2 Lists
Have both sets of parents, the bride and the groom make two sets of guest lists: an A list and a B list. Your A list should include everyone that you definitely want present; your B list will have everyone from the A list and a few others you think it would be nice to invite. Before you see any of the lists (besides your own of course), identify a total headcount you want to stay within reach of (this will serve as the wagering piece for all future guest list negotiations).
Once all 4 lists are in hand, figure out how many A list people are present on all 4 lists: These people obviously made the cut. What number are you at now? How many more people can be invited? How many heads over are you if everyone's A list is honored? If you're over, then ditch B lists (for the time being) and have everyone redo their A list with a new headcount for the remaining available spaces.
Its likely that all of your A lists will be to big, and most of your B lists wont make it if you're working with a smaller budget, so once you've identified the must-haves, figure out who is financing the wedding. Are the bride's parents paying, the groom's, both, or is the couple taking the wedding on themselves? If the latter, then it becomes a matter of negotiating and compromising among bride and groom; realistically, the parents don't really have much room to "demand" certain guests be invited. If, however, either set of parents are contributing to the wedding, then you'll want to be respectful to their guest list wishes, within reason.
Respected wedding source, The Knot recommends inviting 10% more guests than your total headcount; this allows some squeeze room for remaining questionable A and B listers because it's next to impossible that everyone will accept your invitation.
Round Two
If you send your invitations out early enough and get responses early too, those newly empty spaces can be filled with B guests. Be sure and send them a formal invitation though, and should they inquire why they received their invitation after Uncle Bob, you can either try and gracefully explain the situation to the disgruntled guest, or you can flat out lie and tell them you sent the invitations in two shipments. Hey it's your day; don't let B listers stress you out!
If you're down to the wire, consider phoning last minute invites with a sincere invitation and a graceful explanation. These people are likely acquaintances rather than close friends and they'll usually understand your time and budget constraints. Should they accept your invitation, think of them as having just "moved up" on your list as weddings are equally expensive and time consuming for guests and this guest just willingly obliged your last minute invitation!
Parent's Guests
To be fair, each set of parents should get the same number of invites, though if one set of parents is footing the bill, they may be more pushy about extra invites; just be flexible, again, within reason. You don't want to tell your parents they only get 10 guests and then have to explain to them why your fiancé's parents invited 2/3 the total guest count.
Coworkers
When it comes to inviting coworkers be careful. If you're close with your boss, you could invite them, but it's not necessary. You don't want to invite more than one or two people from work unless you want to risk having water cooler gossip about "making the list" stressing you out for weeks up until the wedding. Our recommendation: Unless you've been in your career long enough to have established strong professional or social relationships with a certain group of people, avoid work politics and stress by limiting the total number of invited coworkers.
(No) Kid Zone
Decide if you want to invite kids and when making out invitations to couples with children, be sure and specify through invitation etiquette that it is a "no children" wedding. If you want kids at the reception, then great. If you don't, you'll have to set guidelines, respectfully address your invitations accordingly, and just to be safe, check in with a phone call to make sure these guests know this is a "no kids" zone. Hey, it's your big day and its just one night. Of course, you understand if they can't come.
As a general rule of thumb, morning and lunchtime weddings are usually more kid friendly, while sit-down dinners and nighttime receptions tend to be more "adult only" occasions. But there are exceptions to every rule.
Tit for Tat
If you're still over on your headcount, be fair and do a "tit for tat" cutting session where you cut guests, one for one, from each of your lists. Of course, if you start cutting fantasy football friends with first cousins, you may need to reevaluate if "evens stevens" numbers is the best way to divide the list. Chances are, if one member has a larger family, they'll have a larger number of guests; not because they have more friends, but more family. So, because they expect to invite all those family members, they should be more gracious about you inviting your friends, even B list friends, since their A list family largely outnumbers yours. See, compromise is the stuff all great marriages are made of; consider this Test One.
If you're still over on the headcount, here are a couple other guidelines/questions to consider:
Have you talked to this person at least once in the last 6 months?
Have you hung out with this person at least once in the last year?
Has this person neglected to return your last 2 or more phone calls?
Will you still be friends with this person in 5 years?
Will this family member not speak to you any longer if you don't invite them? Do you have much of a relationship with them now (anyhow)?
Does this person have a lot of children and will they expect to bring these children tot he wedding?
Have you broken plans intentionally with this person more than once?
Will the wedding cost this guest a lot of money to attend and will you be able to spend enough time with them to make it worth their while? (Consider flying out to visit them after the wedding)
Sunday, October 2, 2011
Wedding Hair and Make-up Trends.
It's Planning Season For Our 2012 Brides.
Tons of Questions:
-Where Do I Find A Dress?
-Who Do You Suggest For Our Cake Designer?
-What Flowers Work Best With My Dress?
-Who Do You Suggest For Our Wedding Invitation Designers?
-Should I Go With A Sit Down Dinner vs Cocktail Wedding Reception?
-Tip On How To Choose The Right Photographer and lots More.
As we move into Weddings and Events Season 2. I'll post great tips from Wedding Professionals, to keep you up to date on ALL Wedding Trendy Tips. You'll have the chance to meet face to face with local professionals at the Sanojah's Bespoke Wedding Show November 5th 2011, at Orchid World. Show starts at 3pm, admission is $10 Bds and proceeds are in aid of the Kristen Lopez Medical Trust Fund.
Tons of Questions:
-Where Do I Find A Dress?
-Who Do You Suggest For Our Cake Designer?
-What Flowers Work Best With My Dress?
-Who Do You Suggest For Our Wedding Invitation Designers?
-Should I Go With A Sit Down Dinner vs Cocktail Wedding Reception?
-Tip On How To Choose The Right Photographer and lots More.
As we move into Weddings and Events Season 2. I'll post great tips from Wedding Professionals, to keep you up to date on ALL Wedding Trendy Tips. You'll have the chance to meet face to face with local professionals at the Sanojah's Bespoke Wedding Show November 5th 2011, at Orchid World. Show starts at 3pm, admission is $10 Bds and proceeds are in aid of the Kristen Lopez Medical Trust Fund.
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